We just celebrated Father’s Day — but I cannot help but wonder if the concept has become so polluted it really doesn’t matter any more?
Recently in a group of men we we got “off topic” for the meeting and wandered into the role of Father and pwhat it means today. One of the guys works with family court, and specifically with the area of support payments and “dead beat dads”. As he vented we all became a tad depressed.
- He told of girls in their early 20’s with 3-4 kids by as many different men.
- He told of girls who had a list of 3-4 men to test to determine which one was “dad”.
- He told of dad’s who refused to take responsibility for the children — “she should have taken precautions”.
- Another in the group related his recent experience having a meeting at a bar and grill and noticing how many young women were drinking “hard and fast”. Wondering what control they were maintaining if any.
- We talked about how this pattern is being repeated with second generation young men and young women repeating the behavior of their “parents”.
- My friend with the courts noted that many of these girls are coming with the father being 20 or as much as 30 years older than her.
The conversation then turned to our own “upbringing” and our fathers. Train up a child in the way he (or she) should go and they will not depart from it.
Honor your father and mother that your days may be long on this earth (assuming you can identify who mom or dad is)
We really need men to come back to what biblical fatherhood really means. While many would shy away from a Patriarch system — the concept has some merit. The father is the one who has responsibility for life, physical well-being, emotional well-being, spiritual direction, food, shelter, and continuance of the family name and tradition. Fatherhood.
The tradition of giving away the bride is not so much a turning over of property (as the women’s movement of the 1970’s accused) as it is the Father saying I surrender my responsibility for this child of mine into your care as the new “patriarch” or father in this new family.
What are we teaching our boys? Men of the church — no matter if it is your son, your grandson, or a boy you pass in the hallway at church — are you teaching these young men what manhood really is?