Hold the Phone

everyone onlineThe new marketplace is the social media world.

Retailers and businesses are in a mad rush to establish and “online presence”.

Individuals are also doing the same. (Why do you think I do this blog?)

But in the midst of the Facebook, Linkedin, Instagram, social media rush to influence people and markets we can often overlook a key element in being a person of influence — The real world.

Phil Cooke gives us some very sound advice in his blog posting about being a person of influence:

1. Put down the mobile device and actually be in the moment.

The most valuable commodity of the 21st century will be undivided attention. But most settle for what’s been called “continuous partial attention.” Conversations happen around glancing at email, texting a quick note or glancing at your Twitter feed.

Next time you meet someone for coffee, try this: Give them your full attention, and see what difference it makes.

2. Have something to contribute to the conversation. 

What are you reading? What significant movies have you watched lately? Been to a museum in the last year? Be the type of person others want to be around because your interests are so fascinating. Remember the “garbage in, garbage out” rule?

If all you’re consuming is People magazine or other people’s Facebook updates, chances are your conversation will be less than insightful.

3. Learn to listen. 

No matter how fascinating you may be, the best influencers are great listeners. Conversation is about listening—not just thinking of the next thing you want to say.

4. Finally, seek out opportunities for real, face-to-face contact. 

You’ll actually find that most people are starving for real contact. Invite people for coffee. Have them drop by your place after work. Invite them to lunch. You’ll be grateful you did.

Becoming an influencer in the culture starts with influencing the people around you. Why wait?

Start today …


For the disciple who wishes to make disciples this is especially important.  More and more the world is becoming a place in which you can be alone in a crowd …. everyone focused on their phone rather than those around them…..on the phone

Making disciples calls for a genuine interest in a person’s story…..

It calls for listening….. and telling…..telling how Jesus impacts life for the better.

So starting today how about we each intentionally put the phone aside for part of day and genuinely listen to each others’ story….?


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